I’ve just finished touching up my lip gloss and putting on my sneakers. I feel great after putting effort into my makeup and outfit. I feel my phone buzz and see a notification. “Sorry, I’m gonna be late,” it says. I sigh. I’m not the least bit surprised.

I see another notification one minute later: “I actually can’t hang out anymore… sorry! I’m so type B.”

It’s exhausting when people are flaky and unreliable, especially when it becomes their entire personality. The media has recently pushed “type A” and “type B” narratives across social platforms.

According to social media, someone stereotypically type A uses planners religiously, doesn’t procrastinate, and loves being organized.

Type B, on the other hand, is quite the opposite: disorganized, easygoing, forgetful.

But there’s a difference between being type B and being an inconsiderate person. There’s a difference between not caring, and at least trying to show up.

Being type B doesn’t mean I’ll let you off for wasting my time.

I’ve seen people glorify type B personality traits online because of how “different” and “quirky” it makes them. Being late to your best friend’s wedding and “forgetting” to shower beforehand isn’t something people should aspire to. It’s blatantly disrespectful.

Nobody is all type A or B. You may fall under a certain category, but everyone has traits from both sides. I use a planner myself, but my room hasn’t been cleaned in weeks. Having a messy room isn’t something I should show off. Maybe I should start learning to clean it instead?

Rather than blaming all of your forgetfulness and inconsistency on a personality test you took or a post you saw online, it’s a better idea to try and improve yourself. Try showing up on time, even if that isn’t your strong suit. Don’t bail at the last minute. And, please: don’t flaunt your flaws. Everyone will thank you for it.